Desi Bridal Shower

Ah, just a few days to go. I feel exhausted with a nine to five job, last minute errands and shopping. It seems like a race that I have to finish on time. My husband feels equally exhausted with his job and a gazillion errands including some last minute renovations in the house. Sometimes, I just wish that I would have just gotten married in the house’s drawing room. But then I think that I am being thankless and just suck it all in.

It really would have been great if we had just done a wedding reception, since we are already had our nikah early this year. It would have saved a lot of money and decreased a lot of stress. But I guess, everything happens for a reason.

Enough of my rant, let me share some sweet update now. My aunt threw a lovely un-expected bridal shower for me. Thankfully, the world did not end on the 21st of December 2012, and i rushed home from work in the evening.  I hurried to get dressed. I rubbed  some tinted moisturizer, used my finger tips to smear some gold eye shadow on my eyes, used a kohl pencil to line my eyes and there was this last minute lip butter and i was set to go.

The bridal shower was not something which we had planned. There were no coordinated dresses. No theme. No bride to be sash. Nothing. :)

But it was still so special. All my cousins and close family were there. We took advantage of the situation and distributed the wedding cards there and then. Everybody thought they were very simple and elegant. MashaAllah.

My brother had baked a special chocolate and coconut truffle for me. My aunt had baked a delicious chocolate brownie cake. There was this mouth watering Coffee Delight desert with the initial of my name “S” sprinkled onto it with edible silver beads.

Instead of gifts for the bride, my aunty had put up a Charity box for cancer patients. Everyone had been told to bring a minimal amount of cash and they were then told to drop that in the charity box as a “sadqa” for the upcoming marriage of mine. Everyone gave me lots of duas. I was so touched. That was the sweetest and most genuine thing anybody has ever done for me. <3

Everybody then took turns to say something good about me. That was funny. Some people could answer it easily. Some took their time. And then there was my sister to say something horrible about me to level the praise and make everyone laugh. Lol. Fun, Fun. Fun.

The event ended with everyone telling the others an “achi baat” ( something valuable/ something with a lesson). My favourite was this one: “ Hamesha apnay aap ko zeir rakho, zabar naheen, kyunkey tumheine pesh bhi hona hai”. In other words, always keep your demeanor humble and do not puff yourself with pride as some day you have to stand before Almighty and be judged. Ah, the translation has taken the beauty of the advice but that’s the way it is.

Until laters, stay bright and happy and grateful to Allah. <3

Clueless Me. :)

 

ps. Here are some pics. I do not own a DSLR so we have to make do. <3

Food.

Food.

Coffee Delight ( yum)

Coffee Delight ( yum)

Now, which one could be me? :)

this be me

this be me

Atar ( non alcoholic concentrated perfumes) and tasbeehs for the mommies and their daughters.

Atar ( non alcoholic concentrated perfumes) and tasbeehs for the mommies and their daughters.

the food again

delicious chicken and coconut milk gravy
delicious chicken and coconut milk soup with herbs
I am wearing a lovely white dupatta which probably is from my aunt's bari. It had these  tiny pink roses made on it. She wanted me to wear it when cutting the cake. I loved it.

I am wearing a lovely white dupatta which probably is from my aunt’s bari. It had these tiny pink roses made on it. She wanted me to wear it when cutting the cake. I loved it.

I shall cut the cake. :)

I shall cut the cake. :)

This big red rose ring

This big red rose ring

Spring Rolls

Spring Rolls

Spaghetti. *yum*

*yum*

The Truffle, Bro made.

The Truffle, Bro made.

the sadqa box

the sadqa box

 

Related Info:

In case you are wondering, i got this dress stitched from a local tailor. It can be made easily in any colour.

I got this ring from Artlicious.

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A Closer Look at Aapi’s Bridal Dress

A lot of you requested a closer look at my Sister’s Wedding Dress. It is very difficult to refuse when i know there are good intentions behind it. I firmly believe in helping people and if this gives anybody inspiration, it will be my honour. Here are some random pictures. :)

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My Sister’s Wedding – Part 2

Here are some more pictures from my Sister’s Wedding last year. Enjoy and give your blessings. <3

The Horse Carriage on the way to the venue

The Horse Carriage on the way to the venue

Upon arrival

Upon arrival

Take a closer look

Take a closer look

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The little bridesmaid. :)

The little bridesmaid. :)

Sign the Marriage Contract Please. :)

Sign the Marriage Contract Please. :)

Let's make it official.

Let’s make it official.

The Bride's maids

The Bride’s maids

wee candles

wee candles

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Mashals held by brothers

Mashals held by brothers

a little bit of me and sister. :)

a little bit of me and sister. :)

the photographer's gift to the bride and groom. we all signed it for our bride with all our love. <3

the photographer’s gift to the bride and groom. we all signed it for our bride with all our love. <3

the End- woh chali, woh chalo, dekho pyar gi gali.

the End- woh chali, woh chali, dekho pyar gi gali.

My Sister’s Wedding- Part 1

Since i have posted some pictures from my Sister’s Dholki and her Mehendi, it would be in the natural scheme of things that i would put up her Wedding Pictures as well.

As i reminiscence about that day, i realise that i was probably more tired and nervous than my sister.  She took her sweet time to have a good lunch while i kept telling her to hurry up and ensure that she kept all the things she needed at the Salon.

Co-incidentally, the salon that was supposed to do her make-up was undergoing renovations, so we were to go instead to the proprietor’s house close to our home. 

My sister’s makeup was done by one of their make-up artists.  We were served tea, cookies and chips. All i remember is that it took a really long time to do the base on her skin and i was feeling super sleepy. Although the huge master bed was enticing but i was super shy and instead  curled up on the sofa and dosed off. 

We had arranged for the photographers to come to the house to take some shots of my sister getting make-up done and wearing her jewelry.  I think that is the only time i perhaps woke up and washed my face.

We then had to make this realllly important decision: Should we put the jhoomar or not? We finally decided not to put the jhoomar as my sister has a thin face and the dupatta was heavy and it seemed like there was too much on her. :)

My sister was finally ready and looked really beautiful. MashaAllah. It was then my turn to get my make-up done and i kept saying, “Please, i want very light base. I don’t want to look made up.” Silly me. 

To sum it up, a lot of people complimented the make-up done on my sister and myself. :)

The actual event was a whirlwind, with me going to and fro from the bridal room to the main hall and back. There were moments where i had to try very hard to not cry and stifle all those emotions – especially at the time of nikah and at the entrance of my sister into the hall.

The groom decided to arrive in a pretty horse carriage and to the sound of the dhol beat. His family members did a small bhangra mix ludi dance just when he got down from the carriage.

The bride’s entrance was basically a last minute idea. We had lots and lots of floating candles lying around so i decided to use them. My female cousins were the first ones to enter the hall with floating candles resting on their palms ( this turned out to not be  such a good idea later as the  shell of the candles started heated up). They were followed by mu brothers holding this Mashals. My sister the entered with ammi and aboo at her side, followed by myself. The wedding entrance song was “Rab Rakha” from the movie, ‘Love, Breakups, Zindagi.”

Dinner was served soon after and then the joota chupai ( hiding of shoes) rasm began which i HATE. I only agreed to be part of it since my cousins were insisting. However, i was standing way back and not being very active in the whole thing- unless where required i.e. Yes, this amount is acceptable. Let’s go!!! 

I have told my parents and my family that i don’t want this insane rasam ( my opinion only) on my wedding.

Rukhsati time as you all must have guessed is dreadful. I hugged my sister and then disappeared right at the end of the crowd where i tried to control my self and hate all these people taking my sister away. :P My mom tells me that i had three streams of black tears (kohl) flowing from my eyes.

Strangely as soon as my sister and her in-laws left, all the ladies from our sides took our shoes off ( heels) simultaneously and walked inside the hall. We even have a very funny picture as evidence ( which i will not share). :)

There were a few bitter sweet moments afterwards when i put food on my plate and started looking around to find my sister so i could sit with her. Ofcourse, she wasn’t there.

There was also this moment when my mom called out to Sister for something, only to realise that she said goodbye to us a few minutes back.

 

*Sigh*

 

Annnnyway, before i start missing her even more, here are some pictures from the event.

Wearing Bangles

Aapi wearing her bangles.

Getting Ready

Getting Ready: Lash it up.

Aapi and Moi.

The decision: Jhoomar or no jhoomar.

The decision: Jhoomar or no jhoomar.

The Pretty Shoes

The Pretty Shoes

Helping the Bride wear her shoes. :)

Helping the Bride wear her shoes. :)

Ah, finally done. :)

Ah, finally done. :)

Looky the hands.

MashaAllah. She looked beautiful.

MashaAllah. She looked beautiful.
My favourite picture.

My favourite picture.

In case you are wondering:

The shoes are from: Samia & Azmay Shahzada

The Dress is from: Makkah Bridal, Rabi Centre ( Ground Floor)

The makeup is from: Fahim Burney’s Salon and Spa

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Ticking things off the list in my head

Oh well, not a lot of days to go to the wedding. Good news is that i am able to sleep in the night. 

A lot of things are being managed and done. I am ticking things off the checklist in my head. Maintaining a diary of sorts for things to do for the wedding would just make me insane and make others go crazy too. So, yeah i’m managing this wedding, free-style and it seems to be working. :)

I have seen my wedding dress ( love it) and my valima dress ( love it) , MashaAllah. Both of these dresses are in the final stages of being stitched.

What’s left to do is some bridal lingerie ( *face turns crimson*), bits and bobs and SHOES (that should be another post altogether). I have to chase up a few vendors but that’s doable. No fret.

Wedding cards have gone into printing. Both families decided to print the same cards for the events as opposed to having two separate sets of cards, which is cool by me; especially since i got to choose the colour, font and layout altogether. If you think it would be something unique, you would be surprised. It’s simple, elegant and minimalistic. That pretty much describes the taste of me and hubby- simple and elegant. Period.

I have booked mehendi application experts for my female family members. I am still unsure about the bridal mehendi (henna) but i will figure it out.  I just don’t want to spend Pakistani Rupees 7000/- on bridal mehendi. This is the standard rate being quoted by the top mehendi application experts in Karachi.

Pretty mehendi favours have also been delivered all the way from Multan. *Yippee* 

I am still contemplating whether i should order in wedding favours and a wedding cake, which is basically an extravagance and something we Asians have picked from western weddings.  But if i manage to find something in my budget, I’ll go with it ( Or NOT). We will see.

Will write later and until then stay happy and thankful for every small blessing in your life.

Lots of Love.

xox

My Sister’s Dholki

As the time nears for all relatives to start coming in Karachi from other cities in Pakistan and other countries as well, i can’t help but recall the festivities that were happening in our house last year at the time my elder sister was getting married.

I recall endless dance practices, me, the Bride’s sister and the maid of honour being the most stubborn of all and forcing everyone to practice and practice again. ;)

We had this cute little dholki at our place a few weeks before the wedding. We got in some catering people to install wee fairy lights in the house and bring us a dholki and dafli, ordered some biryani from a local eatery, purchased some bangles, ordered some flower garlands, bought a  few floating candles for decoration purposes and we were set to go.

This was also the day i persuaded my sister to let me put some make-up on her and just as i was about to put in some eye-shadow on her eye-lids, i started crying. It just hit me that she was going to leave in a few days and i just couldn’t take it anymore.  My sister started laughing initially at my bawling face but then as expected, she cried too and then i really had to get my act together.

*Sigh*

Here are some pictures from the event:

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Cousins’ Hands

Family and cousins singing songs

Me in yellow trying to generate a beat. ;)

Dandiya for some hey jamalo. ;)

Arranged by Yours Truly.

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Mithai ( Sweet meat? )

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Fresh floral wrist candy.

Glass Bangles.

Decoration ( that’s cousin in the background).

Arrangement by Yours Truly.

Sister's Hands
Sister’s Hands