What is a perfect wedding? I have never imagined a perfect wedding for myself. A perfect dress? Perfect shoes? Perfect venue? Perfect flowers? Perfect this or perfect that? I have zero wants, zero expectations, zero dreams and zero this and that. Not to say that I am unhappy, God Forbid. I am over the moon and very happy, MashaAllah BUT I just am not too zoned towards a perfect event.
I have no wishes to be treated like a princess. I distinctly remember a friend’s wedding when she said: “I’m getting married; you guys should rub ubtan on me.”
What is that all about? To set the record straight, I want no one to treat me any differently or for me to suddenly assume a superior bride role. There is no one certainly rubbing any ubtan on me. No thank you.
I don’t want someone holding my dress from behind or from the front. I will get a dress that enables me to walk the way I usually do- comfortably.
I don’t want folks to put bangles onto my wrist. I’ll manage. :-)
If, I don’t get a bridal shower, I will not die.
What I do want is moments. Close family moments. Lots of smiles. Lots of gratitude. And yes, I want to look like myself and not someone I don’t recognize. And I don’t want to sit on a stage and make people elder to me come up the two stairs so that they can meet me. When did I become so important? No, I will stand up and honour you for your duas and support.
And i want simplicity.
I don’t know how things will turn out, but I hope at the end of it, I will say AlHamdulilAllah.